The Model in practice

Yes. In our model childhood patterns were learned, so they can be relearned, usually slowly, through many small new responses.

You build self-worth through practice: trying, noticing what you did and owning what went wrong. It grows from small evidence you collect yourself.

Your limits show up as signals: tiredness, resentment, a sinking feeling, the word should. Noticing them early shows you where your edges are.

It means noticing the physical side of a feeling, like a tight throat or a warm face, often before you can name the feeling itself.

You may feel empty because you learned to turn feelings down, and that dial quiets good feelings too. It is an old habit, not a verdict on your life.

Guilt after anger is often your values noticing the gap between how you acted and how you want to be. It can guide repair if shame doesn't take over.