The model

Emotional Templates

The six links of every Template

Trigger
What set it off
Rule
What I learned to believe
Feeling
What I feel, on top and underneath
Body
What happens physically
Strategy
What I do
Outcome
What happens next

The Template Grid

Six Core Needs, four Strategies: 24 Emotional Templates. Each one is named by the rule underneath it.

The Template Grid: six Core Needs by four Strategies
Core Need	Chase (Pursue)	Hide (Withdraw)	Fight (Control)	Fold (Comply)
Safety	If I watch everything, I'll be safe	If I stay out of sight, I'll be safe	If I'm in charge, nothing bad happens	If I keep everyone calm, I'll be safe
Connection	If I'm needed, I won't be left	If I don't need anyone, no one can leave me	If I hold on tight, they can't go	If I'm agreeable, I'll be kept
Autonomy	If I prove myself, I'll be free	If no one knows my plans, no one can stop me	No one tells me what to do	My choices don't matter anyway
Capability	If I'm perfect, I'm enough	If I don't try, I can't fail	If I'm the best, I'm safe from shame	Others know better than me
Expression	If I'm entertaining, I'll be accepted	If I hide what I feel, I won't be hurt	If I'm loud enough, I'll be heard	My feelings are a burden
Limits	If I get it now, I won't go without	Rules don't apply if no one sees	I make the rules	I can't say no

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